During the many conversations we’ve been having with employers in recent months, we are constantly asked about flexibility – could it be the silver bullet to achieving gender equality? If only more men worked flexibly they say. Its true though, one way to increase gender equality in the workplace is to normalise flexibility. Telstra did it first, and many other organisations are considering the move too. But the question we are consistently asked, is: why is it that less than 3% of fathers work flexibly? According to one study released last year, 59% of working dads would choose part time work if they could still have a meaningful career, but 36% of them also believed their organisation’s leaders would look down on men making that choice. Fathers are subjected to stereotyping from their managers and colleagues in relation to their caring responsibilities, and when requesting flexible work.
Let’s reframe the questionAnnabel Crabb, in The Wife Drought, argues we need to start paying more attention to the barriers that make it hard for men to get out of our workplaces. When women have babies, 76% change the way they work, whether part time, full time at home, or flexibly. But men? Nope. They slightly increase their working hours by 4 hours a week with the birth of their first child.
We need an interventionAll the research tells us that the intervention point is as soon as a couple starts thinking about having a baby. Because, as the recent findings from a Harvard Business School study of 25,000 male and female business school graduates highlighted, even the most progressive couples revert to the traditional stereotypes of mother and father when they have a baby:
- more than half the men in Gen X and the Baby Boombers (83% of whom were married) said that when they left business school, they expected that their careers would take priority over their spouses’ or partners’, yet the vast majority of women graduates anticipated that their career would rank equally with those of their partners;
- as it turned out, 75% of men reported that their careers had indeed taken precedence – more than had originally expected the case would be
- more than 75% of male graduates who were expecting to have partners and children expected that their partner would do the lion’s sure of childcare.
- 50% of male millenials expect that their careers will take priority, and two thirds expect that their partners expect that their partners will handle the majority of child care. Oh, and just under half – 42% – of Millennial women expect that they themselves will do so too.